Professionals and parents increasingly notice that many preschoolers, who lock themselves up in a computer and on a television, do not know how to communicate properly with their peers and adults. They can not ask politely for something, respond appropriately to an application and appeal to them, can not empathize, are often hostile or refuse to communicate at all.
However, without communication, children’s lives become boring and not very impressive, and the ability to interact is the key to successful personal development.
That is why the education of communicative skills in preschoolers is the main objective of parents who want to prepare a baby for adulthood.
From the outside it seems that the socialization and the development process of communication skills should go on their own, without the participation of mom and dad.
In practice, children face a lot of difficulties and ambiguities, starting with the desire to become a leader and ending with the inability (or unwillingness) to obey the rules of behavior in a team.
The beginning of the formation of communication skills in children.
The child is sociable from birth: he comes in contact with the mother and other important relatives, he watches closely all the media and shows the character cries, demands attention and fails to respond to the words of my mother.
When interacting with parents, the baby learns the principles of bad and good communication with others. Since children are susceptible, this type of learning sometimes happens unnoticed, but their results can be seen in the preschool age.
The communicative skills of preschool children at the time of kindergarten graduation should include:
- Ability to treat others with understanding.
- Ability to be in the place of another person.
- Negative attitude towards words that can hurt the feelings and emotions of the interlocutor.
- The desire to get in touch and have a conversation with colleagues and adults.
Development of communicative skills: 6 tips for adults.
Many books and reports have been written on the formation of communication skills, but we will not repeat the complex connections and patterns of psychological scientists and will try to talk specifically about how parents themselves and, first of all, mothers can teach their children in house in a correct and productive way. for communicating
- Little by little expand the social circle of babies. If it was enough for a baby to play and interact with parents for a year and a half, then limited space is contraindicated for two-year-olds. It is important to realize your need for socialization and the desire to broaden your horizons.
- Conflicts are another way of teaching communication skills, so to speak in “field conditions”. Do not rush at once to plant small harassing dogs on opposite sides of the playground or litter box. Give them a little time to resolve the conflict themselves, of course, if they do not get into a fight. The child needs to learn to resolve conflicts on his own.
- Communicate with children, taking into account their age therefore, small children of three years can still make comments in the presence of other children, but it is better that the student express their complaints in private. The age factor should also be taken into account when meeting with peers: preschool children can recommend a friend, but older children should choose who they are interested in communicating with.
- Teach your baby to find in each person nice and interesting character traits. Pay attention to the advantages of another person, for example, if a child does not want to play with a classmate, because he is “dressed as ugly”, give another reason: “But tell interesting stories that are very interesting to listen to”.
- Enter the authority rule, that is, say (and even better, show for example) why adults should be respected. Before, it was only possible to tell the child: “Listen to Aunt Masha, because she knows more than you do”. The adult child should be more detailed, but accessible and understandable to explain why adults are more authoritative, are wiser, have more experience and deserve respect.
- Explain that all people are different, with their desires, feelings and characteristics. For example, a person loves to be embraced and another wants to be at a distance. And this does not mean that the first is better than the second. For each one you need to find your own special approach. Let the baby know from infancy that he needs to be flexible and choose the right words for the different partners.
It is unacceptable to put children in an uncomfortable position, forcing them to carry out their tasks or knowing by force with their classmates in the playground.
Try to be patient and sensitive, only in this case your child will take the initiative. And, of course, it would not be superfluous to repeat the rules of behavior with strangers on the street.
We form communicative skills in the game.
The development of communication skills in a child is a process that includes active interaction among children.
It is in the game that children not only communicate, but also develop speech, fantasy, learn to empathize, increase self-esteem. What to play with the child?
1. Drama games and
They are perfect to improve communication skills in children.
Organize home theater performances and mini-performances at home. Such exercises are liberating: at the beginning, the child will be a silent spectator, and then he will become the “actor”.
Involve other children in action, because together it is much more interesting to conquer the scene!
2. Role play
It is not surprising that teachers consider the ability to take a plot and act in roles as an important achievement of preschool age.
The child, who uses different “masks”, learns to evaluate their actions and the behavior of others, to behave according to the chosen role and, finally, to communicate with other children.
Let the baby play “Mothers-Daughters”, “go” to the doctor, “visit” the supermarket.
3. Games by the rules.
These exercises teach children to interact with each other, observing all kinds of conditions: the order of the turn, the result, the rules of the game.
Surely you will notice that children do not like to lose, trying to always be the first. However, it is in competitions that it is clear that you can win if you meet the rules in a team of like-minded people.
4. Plastic studies.
Shy and reticent children are often limited in movement and hardly express their emotions. In this case, ask for help exercises on gestures and facial expressions.
Say that communication occurs not only through words, but also gestures (shake hands), as well as facial expressions (smile, frown).
Try to represent a frog, a bear cub, asking the baby to guess the animal it has been thought of, and then move on.
Some readers may wonder if it is worth developing specifically communicative skills in children. After all, all children are different, perhaps the child is an obvious introvert who does not want to communicate and interact with a large number of interlocutors.
There are so many unusual, curious and unexplored things with children that sometimes it can not be done without communication skills.